Are you asking yourself why am I still single and struggling to find the answer? Are you a strong independent woman that don’t need no man? If you are happy being single and don’t want to settle down that’s awesome! Seriously that’s really good, and you don’t need a man to make you happy – none of us do. But if you would like a man by your side and you would like to see someone long-term and you find that you’re struggling. Pay attention.
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Research shows that men feel insecure around successful womenI’ll admit that I’ve struggled with coming off too strong in the past because I’m extremely laser focused on my career goals. I’ve always wanted to be self-sufficient and successful all on my own accord. This aspect of my personality is directly related to the fact that I am a Type A organized person, I make lots of plans (and get upset when they fall through). I’m constantly planning for the future, I am blunt, honest, direct and a work-a-holic. The house-wife/male supporting my lifestyle just never appealed to me. There’s nothing wrong with it, it just wasn’t my cup of tea. Turns out these traits actually turn off men! Business Insider brings up an interesting point:
Specifically, men say they want women who are smart, driven, ambitious, and accomplished — but when they actually date these women, they hesitate to start a relationship with them. Through research and interviews, Birch deduces that some men may be made uneasy by such a woman’s success, especially if they haven’t yet achieved that level of success in their own careers. – Business InsiderSo my accomplishments make men insecure… I once had a boyfriend who was really competitive and flat out told me that if I made more money than him, he’d be pissed. I know this is likely not the opinion of all men and probably not even most men – but it seems to be a trend that is common nonetheless. I think this is a trait you’ll find in men who are ambitious and competitive themselves. They don’t want to have their wife or girlfriend showing them up.
So then strong women are stuck with lazy bums?When I was dating that super competitive guy, it was hard because he never wanted to celebrate any of my accomplishments – because we was jealous. Then I did a total 180 and dated a guy with no life dreams or goals and could barely hold a job down as a dishwasher in a restaurant. This relationship SUCKED for me because I couldn’t stand coming home to someone who I thought was super lazy. So I couldn’t date successful guys and I couldn’t date more chill, less ambitious guys – what was I going to do?
its not all about you – its about HIM TOOIt took a lot of looking inward and doing some research on what guys really look for in a girlfriend/wife for me to realize that I might need to adjust my personality when dealing with a romantic partner. Forbes published the results of a study by “Sociologists Christine B. Whelan at the University of Pittsburgh and Christie F. They analyzed the results of a 2008 survey asking men to rank attractive qualities of a potential spouse.” – Forbes The results of the study were as follows. These are in order of importance with #1 being the most important. 10. “Ambition and Industriousness” – It made the list! But it’s number 10 out of 18 traits so it’s about the middle of the way. We will discuss this later – it is important 9. “Desire for home and children” 8. “Good looks” 7. “Good Health” 6. “Sociability” 5. “Pleasing Disposition” aka being warm and comforting 4. “Education and Intelligence” 3. “Emotional Stability and Maturity” aka being calm and collected in times of stress. No dramatic fights. 2. “Dependable Character” aka loyalty
- “Mutual Attraction and Love”