Ditch your Ok Cupid or your Plenty of Fish account and focus on dating apps if you want to find a boyfriend in today’s world.PS. This is not a sponsored post for dating apps, this is my real honest opinion on this topic.That being said, a word of caution before I dive deeper into this. If you are in your mid 30’s or older, traditional online dating is still a good tool to use because a lot people in this age range have not transferred over to dating apps.This will change over time as the world realizes that dating apps are more effective but for now, keep the Ok Cupid account if you are in that above demographic but don’t ignore the dating apps.So let me re-iterate. If you are a millennial or younger, you MUST be using Tinder or Bumble if you’re single and looking to find a long-term boyfriend.
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Dating apps INCREASE YOUR CHANCES of finding someone awesomeEveryone is on Tinder. Your friends, my friends, your best friend’s cousin are all telling stories about the girl they met on Tinder or the next date they got from Tinder!
Tinder has 46 million registered users and last year saw growth at 10% – Dating site reviews46 Million people on Tinder! That’s a lot of people.
OKCupid, which started up in 2004, has an estimated 1 million active users today and is the third-most popular dating app on the market, according to data research website Statista.com.Only 1 million? If someone gave you the option of buying 46 million lottery tickets vs 1 million tickets, which one would you choose?I know your dream is to just meet someone organically. Why can’t I just meet someone at the book store or chat up the cute guy at the gym? Well, you can still do that.Using a dating app doesn’t take away your chances of meeting someone in the real world, it simply adds onto those chances and gives you more options.Going on a date or two a week because of people you met on Tinder will expose you to more people and personalities so that you can pick the best out of the bunch.Back in the day we were forced to meet people who we went to school with or who we met at Church but in today’s world, you can meet anybody! And the chances of finding someone who you really like and get a long with just got exponentially higher.You need to be in this game or you’re seriously missing out.
Dating apps are the closest thing we have to meeting organically
Maybe it sounds shallow. But consider this: In the case of my girlfriend, I initially saw her face somewhere and approached her. I didn’t have an in-depth profile to peruse or a fancy algorithm. I just had her face, and we started talking and it worked out. Is that experience so different from swiping on Tinder? – Time.comThat was a line from Aziz Ansari (I know, gross, but he made one good point here) about Tinder being very similar to meeting someone in real life.When you meet a guy at a bar or at a party, he usually just started talking to you (or vice versa) because he thought you were cute.That’s it.He didn’t know what your life’s theme song is and you didn’t know that he started his own business, you just saw each other and decided to test the waters.This is the same experience you will get on a dating app. You’re attracted to the person’s face, you know a few very basic, things about them (ie. I like hiking and running) and that’s it.The rest you will learn about each other via a text conversation which happens in real time (vs messaging or emailing like when you’re on a dating site) and then you eventually meet up so you can learn about each other face to face.
more getting to know each other face to faceTraditional dating sites are more messaging and email based. This means you type up a long email and then wait for a response, which is another long email. The process is slow and really detailed but it’s not easy to get into a flow.Texting is quick and more like a real conversation because it happens in real-time.This way you can make jokes, banter, tease and get to know each other in a way that’s a lot closer to meeting face to face. Texting can get tedious quickly so if you’re really hitting it off with a guy on Tinder, it won’t be long until he asks you out and then you’re connecting Face to Face. By this time you know you can have a decent conversation, you know you share a few things in common and you’re quickly put in the situation where you need to see if you have real in-person chemistry.It’s way easier to get a date on Tinder because everything happens so fast.You can quickly find out if you are into this guy, quickly get on that first date and if things don’t work out, it’s onto the next one – there are millions of options.
The stigma is goneIt’s true that Tinder was once a place for quick hook up sex but it has grown to be so much more than that. Hook up sex is something that a lot of people want for a little while but very few people really want that lifestyle forever. Most people rather just meet someone cool and create a real bonding relationship. Humans have been doing this for centuries and most of us don’t want this to change.Hence why Tinder and Bumble turned into real dating apps for long-term relationships, they are not just for quick sex.
“Tinder says 80% of its users “are seeking a meaningful relationship,” which results in 1.5 million dates each week.” – Time.comIt’s also really easy to spot the guys who are only in it for the sex. The usually say it on their profile or make it extremely obvious within the first few minutes of texting.Avoid these guys if you’re looking for something more by putting “no hookups” in your profile and always meeting in a public crowded place.