Do you have a hunch that a man is crushing on you, but not just in an innocent way…?
If you think that a man might might be attracted to you sexually – he probably is! Us women are pretty good at picking up on that kind of thing.
But just in case you want to make sure, here are 25 signs a man is attracted to you sexually.
#25 – Prolonged Eye Contact
Prolonged eye contact is proven to increase attraction, but a new study has actually highlighted why.
A study conducted by Aberdeen University in Scotland says it’s because we tend to like people who already like us.
What’s more, smiling while making eye contact has the most power when talking to women, according to the researchers. “What we’ve shown is that people seem to like someone who likes them – based on the direction of their gaze – and it’s particularly true of the opposite sex.”
Make sure that if you see him looking at you, you smile back and don’t ignore him.
Related: What men think when you ignore them
#24 – He Keeps The Conversation Going
A man can’t flirt with you if he’s not talking to you. If he asks you about the big report you just finished, he might not be that interested.
But if he came over to ask that, you answered it, and now he wants to know about how your night was – ding ding ding! He’s probably got the hots for you.
Dating website commitment connection explains that this is because he will make time for someone he is interested in:
Men who aren’t that into you have a lot of things to do. Not so, with a guy who desires you. He’s attracted to you and so wants to further engage you in conversation. He wants to hear mundane details about your life and also wants to share the less interesting details of his day. He wants to discuss things with you.
Of course, he does, you’re a catch!
#23 – Accidental Touching
This might seem weird, but men who are attracted sexually to women will touch them.
This can be innocent, like a high-five or a brush on the shoulder.
Or it can be more sensual like a greeting with a kiss on the cheek while touching the small of your back.
#22 – He Wants To Get You Alone
If you’re looking for signs a man is attracted to you sexually, it’s probably because you see him often. Like maybe at work, or at the gym.
If he’s normally talking to you in a public or professional environment, he can’t really flirt. It would look weird! So look for hints that he’s trying to talk to you alone.
Maybe he asks if you can help him with something “in the other room”.
He’s trying to get you alone so that he can turn up the charm.
#21 – Mirroring Body Positions
If a guy is attracted to you, you might notice that his posture and gestures, and even his facial expressions start to mimic yours.
This mirroring is his way of building rapport. It shows agreement and harmony between the two of you.
#20 – He Compliments Your Appearance
Men who are not sexually interested in a woman won’t usually comment on their outfit. They won’t really notice if you’re wearing a “nice shirt” today unless they are specifically checking you out.
When he compliments your looks, he’s trying to say:
“I see how sexy you look today.”
So if he comments on how good you look in that outfit or that your hair looks nice, it’s likely he wants to get you in between the sheets!
Related: How To Know If A Guy Likes You
#19 – Lots of Smiling
Smiling is a very powerful thing. It makes you look friendlier, more inviting and also creates attraction.
When you’re at the office, or the gym, you don’t always smile because you’re busy with work.
So if you notice that a man is going out of his way to smile at you and be happy when he talks to you, he’s likely trying to create a sense of attraction.
And science has proven that he’s on the right track! Here’s what Ronald Riggi, a psychology professor told Psychology Today:
“Each time you smile at a person, their brain coaxes them to return the favor.” He explained further, writing, “You are creating a symbiotic relationship that allows both of you to release feel-good chemicals in your brain, activate reward centers, make you both more attractive.
#18 – He’s Talking About You With Others
Men are sexual beings. Once they have their eye on someone, they have an instinct to go for it. If he’s obssessing about you in his head, he’s bound to mention it to someone else.
If you get wind that he’s been talking about you, it’s a huge sign. He’s probably got his (sensual) eye on you and is getting ready to pounce!
#17 – He Licks His Lips
Lip licking is a physical sign of sexual arousal. As we can see from the Body Language Project:
An increase in lip licking is due to a decrease in saliva production which is in turn caused by high stress. Conversely, high blood flow to the lips is due to sexual arousal in a dating context. Alternatively, licking the lips is in effort to moisten them to speak.
High-stress isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes it means his heart is racing because you’re driving him crazy.
#16 – He’s Being Really Nice To You
Most men will try to turn up their masculine energy when they’re feeling sexually attracted. But according to a study on flirting styles, some men like to build an emotional connection as well.
Regardless of his flirting style, if he’s interested in you, he’ll want you to feel safe.
Being creepy is a major cock-block for men! He knows that he needs to be this friendly and inviting person if he’s going to get lucky. So he’ll go out of his way to show you that he’s nice.
Related: Learn more about male flirting styles, here.
#15 – He Wears Better Clothes
A quick google search will tell all men that if they want to impress a woman, they need to dress well.
If you notice that he’s bought some new shoes or is looking especially good every time he’s around you – he probably did this on purpose.
#14 – He Positions Himself Close To You
This is one of the more obvious signs a man is attracted to you sexually. He will go out of his way to stand close to you. If he’s really interested in getting down and dirty, he’ll even stand a certain way, as pointed out by Cosmo:
A guy will often stand with his legs spread apart and pelvis facing you when he’s hot for you, explains body-language expert Patti Wood, author of Success Signals. “It’s a primal, biological instinct, and most guys don’t even know they’re doing it.” If he takes it a step further by touching his belt, hanging his thumb off a front pocket, or even scratching himself down there, you may need to hose him down — he’s subconsciously trying to draw your attention to his, ahem, assets.Cosmopolitan
#13 – He Teases You
Some men never grow out of the grade school technique. That is, poking fun and teasing the girl he likes.
It might seem odd, but teasing actually creates chemistry and attraction.
Women gravitate toward men who are more masculine. Masculine men, traditionally are not “too nice.”
So if he is teasing you and showing you that “he’s boss”, it’s actually a very masculine thing to do and it can get bring out your feminine energy.
The opposite energy will attract the two of you like a magnet!
#12 – Tries To Make You Laugh
Jeffrey Hall, associate professor of communication studies, found that when two strangers meet, the more times a man tries to be funny and the more a woman laughs at those attempts, the more likely it is for the woman to be interested in dating. However, an even better indicator of romantic connection is if the two are spotted laughing together.
But we didn’t need scientific proof of that. We know that there’s nothing more attractive than a man who makes us laugh.
And men know this as well.
#11 – He’s Nervous Around You
As I mentioned earlier, a man who is sexually aroused or attracted can have feelings that mimic high-stress. On the outside he might look calm and collected, but on the inside he’s freaking out!
Some men are good at hiding this, while others will get nervous. He might stutter his words, look at you sheepishly or have some nervous laughter.
Some women might think this is too awkward, but I personally think it’s cute. Either way, this is a major sign he is attracted to you sexually.
#10 – Talks About His Hobbies
This one may seem odd at first, but it makes logical sense.
If he wants to take you out on a date, he wants to warm you up to the idea that he has a life outside of where you met.
He will do this by sharing his hobbies with you to see if you’re interested.
He might mention that he loves biking or hiking. He’s trying to feel it out to see if you’ll like the things he likes.
If you do, this is a perfect way for him to ask you out on a date!
Related: How To Get A Guy To Like You
#9 – He Listens To Your Stories
This one is not a sign of sexual attraction on its own, but paired with others on this list its a huge one.
A man who wants to explore a relationship with you is very interested in who you are as a person.
He also wants you to know that he is kind and safe.
Don’t be fooled though. Men usually don’t want to create an emotional connection first. It’s their sexual desire that motivates them to want to create a deeper connection. Psychology Today points this out:
While most women may wish for an emotional connection before having a physical connection, for men sexual connection is often necessary to feel safe enough for emotional vulnerability. Ultimately, male sexual drive in a relationship is a gift — it’s another path toward love.
#8 – He Brags
Here is the masculine energy at play again. A man who is sexually attracted to a woman will want to impress her. The easiest way for him to do this is by showing you how great he is.
If he finds a way to casually slip in that he’s “running a marathon this weekend” he’s probably doing that to peak your interest.
#7 – He Makes Sexual Jokes
This is a more obvious way of flirting, but some men don’t like subtlety. If he makes any jokes with innuendo or hinting at something more, he’s like trying to hint at you.
Related: How Many Dates Before Sex?
#6 – He’s Flirty Via Text
If the two of you are texting, he might find it easier to show his sexual attraction. If he’s keeping it cool when you see each other in person, but his texts are full of witty puns and silly emojis, he’s likely interested in you.
Some men are not that great at flirting in person, but they come to life when they can play it safe behind a screen.
Related: If A Guy Doesn’t Text You For A Week
#5 – He Hints At Meeting Up
One of the biggest signs a man is attracted to you sexually is if he hints at hanging out. If you’re having a casual conversation about a new band, he might say something like “it would be so fun to go to their concert.”
He’s not outwardly asking you out yet, but he’s testing the waters to see how you’ll react. If you’re interested in him, definitely show enthusiasm when he makes hints like this.
The next step for him is to just go ahead and ask you!
#4 – He Blushes
Men who are not sexually interested in a woman don’t have anything at stake. They don’t need to worry about embarrassing themselves or looking awkward because they can just part ways like nothing happened.
On the flip side, if he’s a man who is attracted to you sexually, he has a lot to lose if he says the wrong thing and blows it.
This pressure could result in his face going red easily. If you see him blushing or getting shy around you (when he’s normally not) he’s probably sexually attracted.
#3 – Talks About Working Out
This is a big way that men try to boost their sexual appeal. They talk about how fit they’re getting.
He might mention that his new workout routine is really hard.
Or that he was a little late getting out of the “gym” today. If he does this, he’s trying to make sure you know that he. works. out.
#2 – He Never Gets Mad
Everyone gets frustrated or upset once in a while, but not if he’s feeling sexually attracted.
If he always seems to be in a good mood around you, it’s likely because you make him feel good in more ways than one.
Related: Examples of Mixed Signals from Guys
#1 – He Asks You Out
This one is obvious but, it’s the biggest sign that a man is attracted to you sexually! He wants to take you out on a date.
If you’ve gotten this far in your relationship with him, congrats! I’m sure the two of you will be having a lot of fun- but wait 5 dates before it gets too fun 🙂
Now that we’ve gone through the common signs a man is attracted to you sexually, let’s look at some frequently asked questions.
How do you know if someone is thinking about you sexually?
It’s impossible to know what people are thinking behind closed doors. You’ll never be able to know this 100% but there are some clues.
- You find out he’s been talking about you to other people
- He texts you randomly
- It seems like he’s making excuses to talk to you
If he’s showing these signs, it’s likely you are on his mind.
Why is he so sexually attracted to me?
Because you’re a great catch! All women possess feminine energy that is attractive to men. This has nothing to do with looks. If he is picking up on your feminine vibe, he’s going to be extremely attracted to you.
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How do you know if you have chemistry with someone?
This one can be difficult to pinpoint because it can be so subtle. Here are some signs that you have chemistry with someone:
- You make each other laugh
- Your smiles “linger” meaning they stay on your face longer than usual
- It always feels like there is something unsaid
- Your conversations are very energetic
- You tease each other
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